What It's Like to Have Friends Who are More Accomplished than You Are
Maan de Vera
Having a friend whose life is together has it’s pros and cons. Sure, we want them to have everything that they want. But when they do, there’s this inexplicable negative feeling that creeps up on us. We’re here to tell you that you’re not a terrible person for feeling such. In fact, it happens to even the best of us.
Here’s what it’s like to have friends who are more accomplished than you are:
1. You feel proud of them.
Your heart is filled with the joy of seeing them succeed. After all, you’ve been there for them through thick and thin. That’s what friends are for, right? Their success is in a way also yours.
2. You’re also kind of jealous.
Sometimes, when the people close to us are getting the things that they worked hard for, we bring the focus back to ourselves. We start comparing and feel like we’re not of the same level as they are even if we work as hard as they do.
3. You do what you can to also achieve the things that you want for yourself.
These swirls of feelings can get really confusing, but you just do your best to use this as fuel to be a better version of yourself. You choose to be inspired instead of insecure. We’re all taking different paths and we’ll all have our time to shine.
At the end of the day, it’s totally okay if there is a kick of jealousy whenever our friends achieve things. That’s totally normal - healthy, even. But you need to learn how to channel this into taking the steps to improve. Otherwise, if you let it fester, you may end up bringing down the people that you care about the most.