5 Things People With Low Self-Esteem Can Relate With
Maan de Vera
It’s hard enough to have other people doubt you, but nothing is more difficult than not fully believing in yourself. The most common advice is to fake confidence until you actually possess it, but we all know that that’s easier said than done, right? Many have been struggling with this and if you’re one of those people, we’re here to help you out. Here are 5 things people with low self-esteem can relate with:
1. You say “sorry” a lot.
Learning how to apologize is great. But holding yourself accountable for things that aren’t your fault is a no-no. You constantly feel like you’re constantly inconveniencing those around you just by simply existing.
What to do about it: Pause before saying the s-word and ask yourself first if you’re really in the wrong.
2. You find it difficult to express yourself.
It’s not like you have nothing to say. In fact, there’s a lot in your mind, but you’re always hesitant to engage in conversations out of fear. There are also times when you stutter a lot and lose focus mid-sentence.
What to do about it: Make yourself feel that your ideas are worth sharing regardless of how others would react.
3. You just agree with everything, even when you really don’t.
You try your hardest to avoid confrontations and the best way to do that is to keep it shut when it comes to the things you disagree with. As much as you can, you simply put on a face and nod even at times when you don’t want to.
What to do with it: Speak up and own up to your truth even if that can possibly lead to a longer discussion or an argument.
4. You don’t know how to handle compliments.
You’re not really sure if people are just being sarcastic when they speak good things about you. So, whenever that happens, you respond with either super awkwardly or you simply don’t say anything anymore.
What to do with it: Just accept it because you deserve to feel good over things that others appreciate about you.
5. You constantly have negative self-talks.
You are your arch nemesis and your mind has the tendency to be truly mean to you. It can even get to the point when you’re hindering yourself from doing things simply because of made-up scenarios and irrational worries.
What to do with it: Drown the bad vibes by making a list of things you like about yourself, your potential, your blessings, and so much more.
Keep in mind that those with low-esteem like that because they want to. There are many factors that can contribute to the way we see ourselves. It’s a battle fought internally, and you must face it bravely. Whenever doubt kicks in, try your hardest to be kind to yourself.